CHOICE, CHANCE, CHANGE: WE MUST MAKE A CHOICE TO TAKE A CHANCE OR OUR LIFE WILL NEVER CHANGE. Making a decision is different from making a choice. In making a decision, we consider the pros and cons. After analyzing everything, we would be able to come up into a decision. In making a choice, we know the pros and cons. However, we still do what we want to do and disregard everything. The content of our character is our choice. What we choose, day by day, what we think and what we do is who we become.
I have learned to choose, to live by choice, not by chance; to make changes, not excuses; to be motivated, not manipulated; to be useful, not to be used; to excel, not compete; I choose self-esteem, not self-pity. I choose to listen to my inner voice, not the random opinion of others.
Life is inherently risky. I have also learned that there is only one big risk we should avoid at all costs, and that is the risk of doing nothing. A wise person makes his/her own decisions; an ignorant person follows public opinion. Here’s a beautiful parable of choices. Let us be guided accordingly! ! http://timyrna.com/tpedrosa/wolfwithin.htm
MANY HAVE FALLEN BY THE EDGE OF THE SWORD BUT NOT AS MANY AS BY TONGUE. Words and hearts should be handled with care for words when spoken and hearts when broken are hard to repair. A lot of troubles in our world today are caused by combining a narrow mind with a wide mouth.
For many years I have learned that many of us have been victims of unjust, unkind and malicious words thrown upon us or behind our back and they have created much damage. In most cases they came out of jealousy, resentment, to extract selfish compliance or unrealistic selfish expectations, even disregarding the presence of gratitude for favor received and without regard to what the giver had lost or given up. However, I have also learned that we must forgive for our own sake. Let us remember that what we do and what we say to and about others come back to us in many folds for it is the law of nature, that life is an echo; that as the saying goes, what goes around comes around.
Let us try hard to speak with conviction, humility, sincerity and kindness; not with arrogance, egotism, pride and likewise not hesitate to apologize whenever we hurt somebody with words. It’s the right thing to do. Here’s an inspiring article about the words we say: http://timyrna.com/ATP/watchyourwordsA.htm
HURT LEADS TO BITTERNESS AND BITTERNESS TO ANGER. WHEN WE TRAVEL THIS ROAD, THE WAY IS LOST. Bitterness and resentment only hurt us, not the person we are resenting. It is hard to build anything if frustration and unreasonable bitterness occupy our emotion. It is not hard to notice this negative sentiment of bitterness and anger in our daily interaction with others. It has become a habit to some of us.
However those of us who subdue ourselves shall be free; and shall cease to be a slave of passions. By casting off evil and rooting out covetousness, retrospective bitterness and illusion, the righteous achieves inner peace and joyful spirit. I have learned never succumb to the temptation of bitterness for it is like cancer that eats upon the host while anger is like fire, it burns it all clean. I know from personal experience how damaging it can be to live with bitterness and unforgiveness. It's like taking poison and hoping our enemy will die. And it is really that harmful to us to live this way. Here’s in inspiring article about bitterness: http://timyrna.com/tpedrosa/disguisedgift.htm
PERHAPS THE LESS WE HAVE, THE MORE WE HAVE THE TENDENCY TO BRAG. The person who toots his/her own horn has everyone running to get out of the way. There is no need to boast of our accomplishments, what we have nor what we can do. A great person is known, and needs no introduction. People who shine from within don't need a spotlight.
I have learned that bragging and boasting won't attract any real friends. It will set us up on a pedestal, however, making us a clearer target. Still many of us don’t get it, we brag in many different ways, in every opportunity we have. It is not hard to notice it in our daily interaction with others. Many of us brag to attract attention and feel important, instead of sharing to entertain, to inform, to encourage, to inspire, or to motivate others.
Let us learn from the following article the greatest virtue called, humility. http://timyrna.com/ATP/braggingeffect.htm
FROM WHAT WE GET, WE CAN MAKE A LIVING; HOWEVER, WE MAKE A LIFE FOR WHAT WE GIVE. Our happiness does not reside in our possessions, not in gold nor other material things, our happiness dwells in our soul. The sharing of joy, whether physical, emotional, psychic, or intellectual, forms a bridge among us which could become the basis of understanding much of what is not shared and lessens the threat of differences among us.
Loving is best understood when we share: time, energy, food, resources, insights, and information, whatever. When we give, when we share, encourage, motivate or inspire others, whether tangible or intangible, we are sharing hope, faith and happiness that sharing brings, that could translate into positive changes and moral values like generosity and compassion, in our life and in the life of others.
However, we should be mindful of what to share. Sometimes it is a tremendous challenge to curb our craving to share something to attract attention in order satisfy our desire for self-importance and other selfish intentions. Human selfishness must not be ignored. It is not hard to notice this trend in our daily interactions with others. Here’s an inspiring article about the importance of sharing and kindness: http://timyrna.com/ATP/cowandpigstory.htm
THE GREATEST FAILURE IS NOT TO TRY. Let us hold on to our dreams; let us not allow past failures nor dire economic forecasts make us pessimist; let us keep our dreams alive and create our own opportunities. Too often we just look at glistening successes but if we think closely, behind them in many, many cases are failures along the way. Those failures teach us every bit as much as the successes. There were failures before the storm and failures after the storm.
I had many setbacks and failures in life which only motivated me to learn and to try harder. I have definitely fallen on my face many times but I also have comparative successes in life because I do not easily give up.
I have learned that we learn more from our failures than our successes, so let us embrace those mistakes, as difficult as that sounds, and grow from them. When we fail, we always know why and that is how we learn and grow. We only learn from wounds, scars, mistakes and failures. And that's the truth. Let us develop success from failures. Discouragement and failure are two of the surest stepping stones to success. Here’s an inspiring article about success and failure: http://timyrna.com/tpedrosa/closeddoors.htm
EVERY TIME WE OPEN OUR EYES EACH DAY IS A NEW GIFT FROM GOD; WE ARE STILL ALIVE AND THEREFORE IT HAS BEEN GIVEN. Every moment in life has a purpose, and it is in learning to how to find the good in the bad that will take us to our destination. It is important to be thankful for things that seem bad, because in the end, hardship is the only way we grow. By being thankful, we treasure things around us, and appreciate life in a better way; we learn that the universe provides us with abundance when we give thanks. Every one of us is gifted but most of us never open our package.
Let us find one thing each day to be grateful for, such as our health; doing so, will make our body radiate with energy; we will not only attract more good health, but we will also truly want to treat our body like a temple. I have learned not only just to be thankful for the good, but also to be thankful for the bad ones as well. Going through difficulty is personal growth specifically designed for us to persevere and become a stronger person which will allow us to cope with the next problem that will present itself in our life. Let us be thankful for the strength we have garnered. I have also learned that when we are grateful, it turns what we have into enough. Even if we have lost something, we look at what we have left and never look at what we have lost. Here’s an inspiring article about giving thanks and gratitude: http://timyrna.com/tpedrosa/valuewhatyouhave.htm
I HAVE NOT FAILED. I’VE JUST FOUND 10,000 WAYS THAT WON’T WORK.-THOMAS A. EDISON
Failure is the key to success; each mistake teaches us something. Sometimes we get bogged down by little failures and feel defeated by our mistakes. I have learned to think of life's adventures like little seeds. Some seeds succeed and flourish, but only at the expense of many other failures. I have also learned that it is far better to dare mighty things, to win glorious triumphs, even though checkered by failures... than to rank with those poor spirits who neither enjoy nor suffer much, because they live in a gray twilight that knows not victory nor defeat. Winning is great, sure, but if we are really going to do something great in life, the secret is learning how to lose. Nobody goes undefeated all the time. If we can pick up after a crushing defeat, and go on to win again, we are going to be successful and be a champion someday. Let us learn from the Law of the Seed. http://timyrna.com/lawofseedA.htm
DIFFICULT ROADS OFTEN LEAD TO BEAUTIFUL DESTINATIONS. LET US NOT ALLOW OUR TRIALS TO PUSH US DOWN, LET THEM LIFT US UP. EVERTHING COMES TO US IN THE RIGHT MOMENT. BE PATIENT! Better things come to those who don't give up and the best things come to those who believe! The moment we are ready to quit is usually the moment right before a miracle happens. Don’t give up. Sometimes, no matter how much we want for things to happen, all we can do is to wait.; and usually, waiting is the hardest part. Many of us give up so fast because we tend to look at how far we still have to go, instead of how far we have come to be. Let us never give up on something if we think we can fight for it. It’s difficult to wait but it is more difficult when we regret. When God pushes us to the edge of difficulty, trust Him fully because two things can happen: either He’ll catch us when we fall, or He will teach us how to step up out of the well like the donkey in the following story. http://www.timyrna.com/farmersdonkeyA.htm
HUMILITY IS NOT THINKING LESS OF OURSELVES BUT THINKING OF OURSELVES LESS. - (C. S. Lewis)
True humility is intelligent self- respect which keeps us from thinking too highly or too meanly of ourselves. It makes us modest by reminding us how far we have come short of what we can be. It means freedom from thinking about ourselves at all. I have learned that whatever makes us feel superior to other people, whatever tempts us to convey a sense of superiority, that is the gravity of our sinful nature, not grace.
True humility is staying teachable, regardless of how much we already know. Too many of us overvalue what we are not and undervalue what we are; we tend to sympathize with others but actually trying to create an impression for selfish reasons. It is not hard to notice this tendency in our daily interaction with others.
I have also learned that it is FALSE HUMILITY when we think less of ourselves than of other people; when we have a low opinion of our own gifts; when we are submissive, passive or tolerant and allow others to gain something at our expense. However, still many of us sincerely try to share something to inform, entertain, encourage, inspire, motivate, and not to brag, to boast nor blow our own horn.
Let us wash out our ego every once in a while, as cleanliness is next to godliness not just in body but in humility as well. True wisdom comes to each of us when we realize how little we understand about life, ourselves, and the world around us. Sometimes we have to shut up, swallow our pride and accept that we are wrong. It’s not giving up, it’s called growing up. Here’s an inspiring article about humility: http://www.timyrna.com/ATP/humilityeffect.htm
WITH MONEY, WE CAN BUY A HOUSE BUT NOT A HOME. I have learned to solve my money problem by first solving my mind problems. Wealth is no harm, but the inability to give it up is deadly. Happiness is not in having great possessions but in having few wants. To possess money is very well; it maybe a most valuable servant; however, to be possessed by it is to be possessed by a devil, and one of the meanest and worst kind of devils.
A truly godly person is more interested in possessing inner resources which furnish riches far beyond that which Earth can offer. Let us surround ourselves with what we love: whether it is family, pets, keepsakes, music, plants, and hobbies, whatever. Our home is our refuge. Yes with money, we can buy a house but not a home.
I have also learned that money will buy: a bed but not sleep, books but not brains, food but not appetite, finery but not beauty, medicine but not health, luxuries but not culture, amusement but not happiness, a crucifix but not a Savior nor a church-pew but not Heaven.
Time and money are the heaviest burden of life, and the unhappiest of all mortals are those who have more of either than they know how to use. Here’s an inspiring article about money: http://timyrna.com/ATP/moneyfactor.htm
IF WE DON'T LIVE FOR SOMETHING, WE WILL DIE FOR NOTHING. Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood. When we dare to face the things that scare us; we open the door to freedom. Most of our obstacles will melt away if instead of recoiling before them or procrastinating about dealing with them, we make up ours. I have learned that life is like a staircase not an escalator nor an elevator. We have to walk our way up and not to wait to be pushed up nor lifted up by others!
Let us work for a cause, not for applause; let us live life to express not to impress; not to strive to make our presence noticed, just make our absence felt. Yes, life must be lived and curiosity kept alive. We must never, for whatever reason, turn our back on life. I don’t believe people are looking for the meaning of life as much as they are looking for the experience of being alive. Savor life, savor all of life. Here's an inspiring piece about our journey we call life. http://timyrna.com/ATP/ourtrainoflifejourney.htm
GOD DOES NOT CALL THE QUALIFIED; HE QUALIFIES THE CALLED. One of the basic differences between God and humans is, God gives, gives and forgives. But the human gets, gets, gets and forgets. Only God can turn a mess into a message, a test into a testimony, a trial into a triumph, a victim into a victory; God will turn broken pieces to master pieces. When we are weak, God makes us strong; when we are strong, God makes us better. Sometimes God’s silence is in no way indicative of His activity nor involvement in our lives. He may be silent but He is not still. Nothing happens by accident, God is directing each one of our steps. Even our when our plans fail, God always gives us better options.
I have learned that the secret of a happy life is giving God the first part of our day, the priority in every decision and the first place in our heart; that God is the best listener; that we don't need to shout nor cry out loud because He hears even the very silent prayer of a sincere heart.
Sometimes God doesn’t change our situation because He is trying to change our heart. Let us never be afraid of change. Always remember, God will never take anything away from us without the intention of replacing it with something much better. He always has something for us: a key for every problem, a light for every shadow, a relief for every sorrow and a plan for every tomorrow. Here’s an inspiring article about a slave trader who later became an ordained priest and wrote the famous Amazing Grace, published by Philippine Today of Northern California: http://www.timyrna.com/amazinggracestory.htm
When we feel the entire world is against us, there is still a little voice at the back of our head that keeps saying... "You can do it, I know you can!" That is because we can. Every struggle in life has shaped us into the person we are today. Let us be thankful for the hard times; they can only make us stronger and better; have patience and wait for the things we want most and we will get them in God’s time.
I have learned that we all have dreams. But in order to make our dreams come true, it takes an awful lot of determination, dedication, self-discipline, and efforts. Here's an inspiring article that shows us how misfortunes, trials and challenges make us stronger. They are the greatest motivators for success that I have known: http://timyrna.com/tpedrosa/trialspartofadivineplan.htm
LOVE WITHOUT DISCIPLINE IS FALSE; DISCIPLINE WITHOUT LOVE IS FORCE. The ability to discipline our self to delay gratification in the short term, in order to enjoy greater rewards in the long term, is necessary prerequisite for success. True freedom is impossible without discipline. The really important kind of freedom involves attention, awareness, discipline, effort, and being able truly to care about other people and to sacrifice for them, over and over, in countless little ways, every day. I have learned not to train the children to learn by force nor harshness; but direct them to what amuses their minds, so that we may be better able to discover with accuracy the peculiar bent of their genius. We would be able most of all, to love them for who they are, not to spend our whole time trying to correct them. Here's another inspiring article about parenthood. HAPPY FATHER’S DAY! http://timyrna.com/tpedrosa/allweeverdid.htm
HONOR YOUR FATHER AND YOUR MOTHER. Gratitude is one of the best tools to remind us of what is really important in life and to connect us to others by expressing our appreciation. I wrote the article, "The 5th Commandment" several years ago as a tribute and recognition of my gratitude to my mother and to serve as a wakeup call to those who have some issues with their parents.
I have always been away from my mother most of the time since early in life, but I have always been guided by her prayers and wisdom. She taught me the power of inspiration, courage, perseverance and she did it with strength and passion. My mother is my root, my foundation. She planted the seeds that I base my life on. I have learned from her that the fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom; that when we stick to what is good, what is true, what is honest and what is real at any cost, and we will always prevail at the end.
Our parents are the truest friends we have. When trials heavy and sudden, fall upon us; when adversity takes the place of prosperity; when friends who rejoice with us in our sunshine, desert us; when trouble thickens around us, still they cling to us, and endeavor by their kind percepts and counsels to dissipate the clouds of darkness, and cause peace to return to our hearts if we are willing to listen. Let us try to understand them; respect them; don’t take them for granted nor blame them for the troubles of our own making. Here’s an inspiring article about how to deal with our parents: http://timyrna.com/ATP/5thcommandment.htm
LOVE BEGETS LOVE. Love is our true destiny. We do not find the meaning of life by ourselves alone; we find it with another. The measure of love is to love without measure; true love sets no conditions; it does not calculate nor complain, but simply love. I have learned how some parents had bargained with God enormouse sacrifice for the life of their child; how they gave everything they had to raise the child. Parents have only good intentions for their children but in raising them, sometimes something happens beyond their control even though they do everything in their power to keep their family in tact or sometimes they make mistakes. We should understand because they were made out of love and their desire to prepare their children for a better future. Here's an inspiring story, a touching manifestation of fatherly love, giving freely the gift of love and compassion without expecting something in return: http://timyrna.com/tpedrosa/daddyshands.htm
IT IS IMPORTANT FOR PARENTS TO LIVE THE SAME THINGS THEY TEACH. Fatherhood is a very natural thing; it's not something that shakes up our life but rather it enriches it. A father has to be a provider, a teacher, a role model, but most importantly, a distant authority figure for the good of the family. I have learned that the best thing we can do for our children is to allow them to do things for themselves, allow them to be strong, allow them to experience life on their own terms, allow them to take the subway... let them be better people, let them believe more in themselves. Pampering and spoon-feeding them would only make them weak; they would not develop their full potential.
I have also learned that parents should not necessary educate their children to be rich but to be happy so that when they grow up, they will know the value of things, not the price; that the best way to give advice to our children is to find out what they want and then advise them to do it. Yes, being a role model is the most powerful form of educating. Youngsters need good models more than they need critics. It’s one of a parent’s greatest responsibilities and opportunities. Here’s an inspiring article about fatherhood: http://timyrna.com/tpedrosa/wisdomandlegacyofafather.htm
This article was brought about as a result of many conversations with unhappy parents through the years. I think the struggle for survival and desire for self- importance and attention of either or both parents and children, in most cases, are the main reasons for the indifference, misunderstanding, too much expectation or what we might call, “I don’t care attitude” triviality in the family. We hope that this article may serve as a wake call; that love, gratitude and forgiveness will prevail among us.
WE NEVER KNOW THE LOVE OF OUR PARENTS TILL WE HAVE BECOME PARENTS. Parents love their children unconditionally throughout their lives, no matter how old they get. However, many of us take them for granted; many of us spend years wishing our parents would get off our back, only to realize they are the ones who really have our back. Some of us unconsciously try to use instead of helping them; try to extract whatever we could from them. Good and decent children are more understanding and tolerant to their parents as they get older. Let us remember them with love and gratitude. Our children will do the same to us when we reach their age. Remember, what goes around, comes around! http://timyrna.com/parentswish.htm
EVERY GREAT DREAM BEGINS WITH A DREAMER. We have within us the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world. We can develop our character through experience of trial and suffering; through strengthening our soul, clearing our vision and aspiring our ambition. I have learned that success is not a destination, but the road that we are on, working hard and walking our walk every day; that we can only live our dream by working consistently hard towards it. That's living our dream.
We become a person of value by putting our heart, mind, and soul into even your smallest act. We are only as strong as we allow our self to be; never get discouraged, never give up because consistency and dedication are keys to success. I have also learned that the greatest success we can ever achieve is when we help others become successful. To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; to earn the appreciation of honest critics and to endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty; to find the best in others; to know even one life has breathed easier because we have lived. That is to have succeeded.
ARRIAGE IS GREENER WHEN PROPERLY WATERED AND FERTILIZED. Marriage does not guarantee that we will be together forever, it is only paper. It takes love, respect, trust, understanding, friendship and faith in our relationship to make it last. I have learned that love is friendship that has caught fire. It is a quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is honesty, respect and loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weaknesses. I have also learned that all married couples should learn the art of battle as they should learn the art of making love. Good battle is objective and honest, never selfish, vicious nor cruel; it is healthy and constructive, and brings to a marriage the principles of equal partnership. I have likewise learned that if we stick to these principles, we always prevail at the end.
Many of us have learned the hard way that the secret to a happy marriage is to have peace with someone within four walls; to be contented that the person we love is near and will emotionally, spiritually and socially support us; that we both agree to keep outside interventions (especially the in-laws) out in our marriage; and finally to accept our spouse wholeheartedly as a person without financially nor social consideration. Many marriages we have known have succeeded because the couples did personally decide what they want and what’s good for their own family not what other people wanted. I have likewise learned that many advice, suggestions and ideas are good but many are also made for selfish reason(s). So beware! Here’s an inspiring article about marriage: http://timyrna.com/tpedrosa/marriage.htm
WHAT WE SEEK FOR OTHERS, WE FIND FOR OUR SELF. Our purpose in life is to be happy. We feel happy when we make others happy; what pleases us in others will generally please them in us. We don’t perceive a sense of our worth until it has been reflected back to us in the mirror of another loving, caring human being. I have learned that we need to focus on the karma rather than on the lesson for what goes around comes around. We should never wish for others what we would not wish for our self. We are to do unto others as we hope they would do unto us. That is what love is about. Love never lives on a one-way street, for it will always come back up the road bigger than how we had sent it down the road. Whatever we decide to throw out there will return to us. If we do not like what to come back, we should change our output.
I have also learned that our job on earth is not to criticize, reject, nor judge. Our purpose is to offer a helping hand, compassion, and mercy. We each have the power to give. It’s the most gratifying feeling ever. By reaching out to help others, we are sending ripples of positive feelings not only to them but also to us. Here’s an inspiring article about echo and the golden rule: http://timyrna.com/echogoldenrule.htm
WHO ARE OUR FRIENDS? Friends are the ones who know us as us; understand where we have been; accept what we have become, and still gently allow us to grow. When we have been through hard times and come out the other side; when we look around us, the people who are still there are our true friends. I have learned that good friends are like wine, the longer we keep them, the better they get; they are like stars, we don't always see them but we know they are always there for good times and bad times. Bad friends are like apples, the longer we keep them, the rotten they get.
We may have some fake friends who are not different from shadows: they stick around during our brightest moments, but disappear during our darkest hours. When we think about friendship, we reflect about people who act true to our face; people who remain true behind our back. They are not our friends until they have defended us in our absence. So when looking for a friend, let us not look for perfection, just look for friendship. One of the most beautiful qualities of true friendship is to understand and to be understood. Here’s an inspiring article about the many blessings of friendship: http://timyrna.com/ATP/blessingcalledfriendship.htm
THERE IS NOTHING MORE BEAUTIFUL THAN BELIEVING IN ONESELF. All the thoughts and dreams in our minds and all the emotions connected with them will sooner or later manifest as our reality if we have faith. Once we accept and believe, we open the door to change. Change is not something we do, it is something we allow. Our aspirations move us towards the right place, at the right time, and with the right people. When we succeed in good things, ultimately we will experience enlightenment towards success.
I have learned that the negative energies we send in the universe will reap an equivalent or more of it. It can come back in many negative effects. I have also learned the wonderful things happen due to positive beliefs and good karma which make our lives beautiful. So let us consult not our fears and negativity but our hopes and dreams; not our frustrations and unfulfilled potential, not with what we tried and failed in, but with what is still possible for us to do. Let us dream anything we want, that is the beauty of the human mind; let us do anything we want, that is strength of the human will; and let us trust ourselves to test the limit, that is courage to succeed. Here’s an inspiring article about faith: http://www.timyrna.com/ATP/reflectionofwhatwebelieve.htm
SOME MISFORTUNES ARE OPPORTUNITIES. Acceptance of what has happened is the first step to overcoming the consequences of any misfortune. Opportunity often comes disguised in the form of adversity or temporary defeat. Life is thickly sown with thorns, and I know of no other remedy than to pass quickly through them. The longer we dwell on our troubles, the greater is their power to harm us.
I have learned that whenever we are struck by trouble, there is a higher purpose behind it, which we may not understand at the time. Through suffering, God helps us improve ourselves and make good our mistakes. It is a form of purification and also God’s way of testing the strength of our faith and the goodness of our character. Suffering draws us closer to God because when we are well, sometimes we do not remember Him. When we believe that hard luck is part of living, our trouble always turns itself for the better even the most painful turns in human affairs. Everything happens for a reason. The daily challenges, tragedies and troubles are all meaningful events that make us stronger leading us toward an ideal conclusion. With that in mind, there probably isn't really any meaningless misfortune. Here’s an inspiring article about misfortune and opportunity: http://timyrna.com/ATP/considermisfortuneasopportunity1.htm
A SMILE IS HAPPINESS WE FIND RIGHT UNDER OUR NOSE. When we smile, we don't only appear to be more likable and courteous, we appear to be more competent. When we see many people with smile on their face, then we must be doing something right. I have learned to develop a thirst for a grateful and happy life; to be excited every day and be prepared to look the bad and the good straight in the face and greet them both with a smile.
I wake up with a smile, go to sleep with a laugh, and be grateful for another day. I have learned the power of love; to focus on the long-term big picture; and the light-hearted approach sense of humor that always makes me smile and the people around me. Here’s an inspiring article about a gift we can give for free, but the rewards are priceless, both to the giver and receiver. http://timyrna.com/ATP/happinessunderournose.htm
WE DEFINE OUR SELF WHEN WE JUDGE OTHERS. It is easy to look at people and make quick judgments about them, their present and their past, but we would be amazed at the pain and tears a single smile hides. There is a story behind every person. Let us think about that before we judge.
I have learned that what we show to the world is only one tiny facet of the iceberg hidden from sight. And more often than not, it is lined with cracks and scars that go all the way to the foundation of our soul. If we could look into each other's hearts, and understand the unique challenges each of us faces, I think we would treat each other much more gently, with more love, patience, tolerance, and care. So when we find ourselves in the position to help someone, let us be happy and feel blessed, because God is answering that person's prayer through us. Our purpose on earth is not to get lost in the dark but to be a light to others, so that they may find way through us.
I have also learned that what we have done for our self alone dies with us, but what we have done for others and the world, remains and is immortal. Here’s an inspiring article about judging others: http://timyrna.com/puppiesforsale.htm
IT IS IN SHARING THAT WE RECEVE; IT IS LOVING THAT WE ARE BEING LOVED. The most useful asset we can have is not a head full of knowledge but a heart full of love, with ears open to listen, and hands willing to help. Compassion is a language the deaf can hear and the blind can see and love is the master key that opens the gates of happiness, of hatred, of jealousy, and, most easily of all, the gate of fear. I have learned that the more we are motivated by love, the more fearless and free our action will be; that we are here on Earth to heal, not harm, we are here to love, not hate and we are here to create, not destroy. I have also learned that a love without reason is beautiful; that a goodbye without reason is painful. Yes, we can give without loving but we cannot love without giving. We do not find the meaning of life by ourselves alone, we find it with another person. We can try stirring up friendly and loving feeling and try to use the power of love to overcome hatred, the world will know peace. Here’s an inspiring article about an innocent and sincere love of boy: http://timyrna.com/dollandrose.htm
WHEN THINGS GO WRONG, DON’T GO WITH THEM. The size of our success is measured by the strength of our desire; the size of our dream; and how we handle disappointment along the way. The principles of living greatly include the capacity to face trouble with courage, disappointment with cheerfulness, and trial with humility. If we are ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment.
I have learned that every disappointment that happens to us, every wrong, even every closed door has helped make us into who we are; that when we face the worst that can happen in any situation, we grow; that when circumstances are at their worst, we can find our best; and that success is how high we bounce when we hit bottom. Let us not allow today’s disappointments cast a shadow on tomorrow’s dreams. Disappointments are just God’s way of saying, “I have something better, be patient, and live life."Here's an inspiring article on how to deal with disappointment: http://timyrna.com/ATP/howtodealwithdisappointment.htm
We spend so much time during our petty existence worrying about our image. Many of us have the tendency of not sharing at all. On the contrary, some of us have the tendency of sharing too much, sharing things that are too personal; sharing something to make a selfish impression, like material things or possessions; or sharing something that others may not appreciate. Some of us feel that we have a duty to ourselves to create and preserve a certain image from which others will perceive us. It is not hard to notice these tendencies in our daily interaction in the social media. Sometimes the hardest part about sharing is finding the courage not to do it.
However, although creating boundaries and maintaining positive image are admirable traits, by censoring ourselves, we deny ourselves the opportunity to share our most important thing, no one can see the world like we do. All our relationships are person-to-person; they involve people seeing, hearing, touching, and speaking to each other; they involve sharing goods; and they involve moral values like generosity, compassion and more.
I have learned that one of the best things we can do is to inspire, motivate and help others with our story. Whether it's with the health issues or with spirituality, we can try to run the negatives into positives. If we can help others by sharing our story, then it is worth it. Our greatness is not what we have, it is what we give. It is not what we have gathered but what we have scattered that we will be remembered. What matters at the end is how long we will remembered by whom and for what. Here’s an inspiring article about the benefit and importance of sharing: http://timyrna.com/ATP/bysharingwelearnmore.htm
GOD IS NOT AN OPTION BUT A NECESSITY. Prayer helps us respond to misfortune with courage, to react with confidence and to rebound with enthusiasm. Every day we live is a priceless gift, loaded with possibilities to learn something new, to gain fresh insights so we could live with courage, faith, hope and confidence. When our day starts with prayers and ends with prayer, everything in between seems to always work out. Prayers are always answered. We don't have to beg or make deals with the Creator when we pray. The key is to pray with faith, knowing and believing that, what we ask for, we already have!.
I have learned that when we allow God's word to shape our thoughts, it will shape our life; that we may gain nothing obvious by regularly praying, but our anger, ego, greed, depression, insecurity, fear of death and other negative thoughts could disappear. Sometimes, the answer to our prayers is not gaining but losing; which ultimately is the gain. Here’s an inspiring article about the importance of prayering: http://www.timyrna.com/ATP/godisalwaysincontrol.htm
FOR THOSE WHO HAVE OBVIOUS HATRED IN THEIR HEARTS, REVENGE IS NOT THE ANSWER. Vengeance is an act of turning anger in on oneself. On the surface it may be directed at someone else, but it is a surefire recipe for striking out emotional recovery.
Weak people revenge; but strong people forgive and intelligent people ignore. We should release disappointment and hatred at once when we feel we are deceived or betrayed, so bitterness has no time to take root.
I am one of those people who were greatly disadvantage early in life and because I am just human, there were times when my brain more often than not, was busily devising new and interesting ways to bringing those who deceive, betrayed, took advantage or using me; those enriching themselves at my expense; or being false witness against me; all for selfish reasons........ wishing them sudden, suppressing, struggling and agonizing hardship.
However, with God’s grace and with my mother’s great wisdom and guidance, I have learned to make my ultimate mission on this world, not one of countering hurt with more hurt, but one of love and friendship and kindness. I have learned and realized with heartfelt gratitude that vengeance is one of life’s great motivators; that to improve oneself, to seek greatness is the only righteous vengeance; that the best revenge is to live on and prove oneself; that the greatest revenge is massive success, living well, comfortable and happily.
May we not succumb to thoughts of violence and revenge, but rather to thoughts of love, mercy, compassion and kindness. Here’s an inspiring article about vengeance and revenge: http://timyrna.com/ATP/revengeisnottheanswer.htm
BEAUTIFUL ACT OF KINDNESS IS AN OPPORTUNITY. The very best we can give each other is our love not our advice, and certainly not our judgment. Some of us need those who point out what we can do and what we are capable of; those who do not turn their backs on us whenever we need help. It is a beautiful thing to see a person smiling and even more beautiful to know that we are the reason behind the smile! We can always make ourselves a blessing to someone; our kind smile or pat on the back just might pull someone back from the edge.
As we get older, we must remember that we have two hands: The first is to help our self, the second one is to help others. So let us remember that whenever somebody needs a helping hand, it is just at end of our arm. I have learned that when we treat a person as he/she is, that person will remain as he/she is. But if we treat the person what he/she could be, that person will become what he/she could be. I have also learned that what we have done for our self alone dies with us; what we have done for others and the world remains and is immortal.
So whenever we feel something as simple as a smile or a kind act will go unnoticed, let us do it anyway; we never know how much it might change someone else's life. We only pass through life but once, so if there be any opportunity to do kindness or any good thing we can show anyone, let us do it now for we shall not pass this way again (William Penn).
Here’s a beautiful act of kindness displayed to a mentally retarded boy: http://timyrna.com/ATP/bluerose.htm
A Letter to My Grandchildren
Difficulties strengthen the mind, as well as labor does the body. If we do not plant knowledge when young, it will give us no shade when we are old. I have learned not to train children to learn by force or harshness; but by directing them to it by what amuses their minds, so that we may be better able to discover with accuracy the peculiar bent of the genius of the children.
I have also learned that our kids require us most of all, to love them for who they are, not to spend our whole time trying to correct them. Knowledge comes, but wisdom lingers. It may not be difficult to store up in the mind a vast quantity of face within a comparatively short time, but the ability to form judgments requires the severe discipline of hard work and the tempering heat of experience and maturity. Here’s an inspiring and realistic letter to grandchildren: http://www.timyrna.com/lettertomygrandchildren.htm
MY MOTHER’S HANDS Gratitude is one of the best tools to remind us of what is really important in life and to connect us to others by showing our appreciation. As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words but to live by them. By being thankful, we treasure and remember with gratitude people, most especially our parents who were there when we were struggling to improve our life for the better. God so treasures our parents that He gives His kindness, devotion and care to them in many loving ways. Each precious golden moment of caring we give them is pleasing to Him. We may have all the wealth and honor on earth and no matter how high we've scaled in our career or elsewhere, if we do not have a good relationship with our parents, we are a failure. Here’s an inspiring article that reminds me with deep gratitude, the unbelievable sacrifices our mother did for us her children: http://www.timyrna.com/ATP/mymothershands.htm
May 14, 2017 is Mother’s Day. Let us remember with gratitude our mother who always loves us throughout her life; and no matter how old she gets, we are always be that amazingly beautiful child that filled her heart with joy. Let us remember as well, with affection our grandmothers who mothered our parents; let us also think with respect our mother-in-law who mothered our spouse. Regardless what many people think about her, some are really nice, trying hard and know where they should be. Here are some thoughts about motherhood: http://www.timyrna.com/heartofamother.htm
A TRIBUTE TO ALL MOTHERS. Youth fades, love droops, the leaves of friendship fall, but a mother’s love outlives them all. The natural state of motherhood is unselfishness. When a woman becomes a mother, she is no longer the center of attention, she relinquishes that position to her children. Motherhood is a great honor and privilege, yet it is also synonymous with servanthood. Every day mothers are called upon to selflessly meet the needs of their families. Whether they are awake at night nursing a baby, spending their time and money on less-than-grateful children, or preparing meals, mothers continuously put others before themselves.
To the world my mother is just one person, but to us her children, she is our world. This year, she will be 101 years old. We pray for her with utmost love and gratitude Here's an article dedicated to all mothers: http://www.timyrna.com/forallmothers.htm
SPECIALLY DIRECTED TO COMPLAINING SENIOR FRIENDS AND ACQUANTACES. PEACE BE WITH YOU! Let us learn to get in touch with silence within ourselves, know that everything in this life has a purpose and waste no time and effort searching for peace, contentment and joy in the world outside. There is more happiness in giving, reaching out, sharing a smile, a hug, inspirations, etc. Happiness is a perfume we cannot pour on others without getting few drops on ourselves.
No matter what looms ahead, if we can eat today, enjoy the sunlight, mix good cheer with those around us, let us enjoy today and thank God for it. Let us not look back on regrets for they belong to the past, nor too much to our dreams for they belong to the future. Once we start seeing the beauty of life, ugliness starts disappearing; we start looking at life with joy, sadness starts disappearing because we cannot have heaven and hell at the same time, we can only have one. It is our choice. Here’s an inspiring article about our priorities in life as we age: http://www.timyrna.com/ATP/prioritiesoflifeasweage.htm
WHAT DO WE VALUE MOST? To many of us, LOVE is on top of the list. What is worth living for and what is worth dying for; what is sacred; what is spiritual, what is honest and real. The answer to each of them is LOVE. Our outlook in life, our estimate of our self and estimate of our values are largely colored by our environment. Our whole career is modified, shaped, molded by our surroundings, by the nature and character of the people we grow up with and with whom we come in contact every day.
It was my dear mother who taught me to value myself. She told me that I could be what I want to be if I have the passion, determination and perseverance to change my life for the better regardless of our situation at that time. I have learned that we do not know the true values in life until we have undergone the test of time. It is the value of hard work by working hard and focusing to my goal at any cost that I have learned along the way.
I have also learned to value gratitude and humility. So many people had a hand in our success, from our parents and siblings who motivated and encouraged us, our teachers who inspired us and many others who have unselfishly helped us in our journey we call life. We must value everyone’s contribution and treat everyone with love and respect. Here’s an inspiring article about what do we have to value most: http://www.timyrna.com/ATP/whatdowevaluemost.htm
IF WE BELIEVE, THE TRUTH WILL SET US FREE. We set ourselves free when we stop worrying, wondering, and doubting; in having faith that things will work out, maybe not how we planned, but just how they are meant to be. We cannot change the past, but we can ruin the present by worrying over the future. Let us not be anxious about anything. If we fill our heart with regrets of yesterday and the worries of tomorrow, we have no today to be thankful for. I have learned that in life, worrying is like sitting in a rocking chair; we are constantly moving but we are not getting anywhere. Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its troubles but it empties today of its strength. Here’s an inspiring article about setting ourselves free and enjoying life to the fullest. http://www.timyrna.com/tpedrosa/setyourselffree.htm
MANAGING OUR THOUGHTS. Our life is a creation of our mind. A great attitude becomes a great mood; which becomes a great day, which becomes a great year; which becomes a great life. My imagination is what convinces me that there is more to life and to the world than meets the eye. I have learned that the first place that we lose the battle is in our own thinking. If we think it is permanent, then it is permanent. If we think we have reached our limits then we have. If we think we will never get well then we will not. We have to change our thinking; we need to see everything that is holding us back, every obstacle, and every limitation as only temporary.
I have also learned that our mind is like a parachute, it does not work if it is not open; it is like an umbrella in the rain, it won't protect us unless it is fully opened. So let us remember two important things in life: to take care and manage our thoughts when we are alone, and to take care of our words when we are with people. Here’s an inspiring article of how to live a peaceful and happy life by managing our thoughts: http://www.timyrna.com/ATP/managingourthoughts.htm
THE FULLNESS OF LIFE IS HOW WE MAKE IT. Let us learn to enjoy every minute of our life; be happy now; don't wait for something outside of ourselves to make us happy; think how really precious is the time we have to spend, whether it is at work or with our family. We should enjoy and savor every minute.
Being lost in thoughts, thinking about things to do, what has been done, or what could have been done, is not only tiring but also a brilliant way to waste energy. It diminishes our peacefulness and clouds our clarity. Every time we become lost in thought it means exactly that we are lost! However, when we allow our mind to become quiet, we find ourselves and we become utterly tranquil. In quietness, there is a stillness that contains a deep inner peace, wisdom and we find contentment.
I have learned that contentment is a real wealth. When we are discontented, we always want more, more, more. Our desire can never be satisfied. But when we practice contentment, we feel peaceful and happy, and we can say to ourselves, 'Oh yes, I already have everything that I really need.' Here’s an inspiring article about being contented, peaceful and happy: http://www.timyrna.com/ATP/fullnessoflife.htm